Tuniscia O-Healing Motherhood through Sisterhood
My name is Tuniscia O.
They say, “It takes a village to raise a child.” But who supports mothers as we suffer in silence to avoid judgment and ridicule?
As a wife, mother of 3 (two of whom are adults and one who I didn’t give birth to) plus the CEO and Founder of Blending Our Love, Inc.™️ a global speaker, trainer, and transformational coach empowering mothers to heal through the art of forgiveness. The host of the international vlog “Tea with Tuniscia O and author of an Amazon #1 bestselling book Empowered Stepmother: Grow, Glow, and Thrive Harmoniously In Your Blended Family life is busy and ever-changing.
Sure…it all sounds glorious today.
But three years ago when I hit “rock bottom” while on the verge of a mental breakdown it was lonely.
I had mastered camouflaging my pain with a smile.
The art of, “keeping it all together to please others” was my specialty.
But at the age of 40....
It all spiraled out of control and I could no longer run from myself.
I felt like a failure.
My adult children became increasingly more defiant towards me.
But why…I had loved them so much.
Motherhood was my thing.
Yes. I was a teenage single black mother of two children.
But motherhood was the one area in my life I felt confident about.
I went to every back-to-school night.
Volunteered for field trips.
Cheered in the stands at games.
Sent the older two to college.
My daughter studied abroad in France.
What did I do wrong?
Then we had the drama of co-parenting and all of the minutia that comes with custody battles, restraining orders, assault charges.
If you are in a blended family you know exactly what I’m talking about.
And to top it off, I was the manager at a publicly-traded company where I was unappreciated and undervalued as an employee.
My plate was full, to say the least, and it ultimately left me in a deep depression.
I began questioning everything about my life including the relevance of my existence.
During this depression, I discovered Iyanla Vanzant's book "21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything."
It transformed my thinking and began my healing journey.
This book in addition to other conferences and training allowed me to discover the deep-seated pain, trauma, and unforgiveness I was carrying from the bombshell my mother dropped on me at the age of 24.
She said, "The man I told you was your father all of your life really isn't your dad. It's someone else."
This devastating news impacted the way I loved and communicated with my mother understandably.
But what I didn't realize was how it would impact the way I mothered my children.
Although my words to my mom said "I forgive you," my actions told another story.
I was nisty (nice/nasty) towards my mom. My words were cold, sharp and piercing but delivered with a smile and a manipulated love.
In my mind, she "deserved to pay for the pain she caused me."
My children were 5 and 6 years old at the time and had a front-row seat.
When they became adults they showed me exactly how I taught them to value me as their mother through the actions I had shown towards her.
Children do what they see...not what we say.
Parts of their disrespect and rebellion were learned behaviors that I had cultivated it through my actions towards my mother and others.
The first step was forgiving myself and apologizing through my changed behavior and not solely words.
This level of accountability for our actions doesn't come easy.
Now three years later, I have done my work and gone into some of the darkest places in my soul to shine a light and heal.
Learning how to forgive allowed me to restore my relationship with my mother and children.
Since empowerment equals healing.
I decided to give others what I wish I had during my “silent depression.”
Bringing mothers together to discuss the various aspects of motherhood which leave many moms exhausted, broken and wounded as they struggle with life, past hurts and trauma all while parenting.
A place of no judgment.
Mothers knowing they aren’t alone is a powerful message.
“Moms are stronger together and so we are connecting through motherhood and sisterhood to heal our hearts and homes.” -Tuniscia O
As a result of the strategies and techniques provided to empower mothers around the world, tens of thousands have had mindset shifts to go from suffering in silence to thriving harmoniously while in their marriages, families, and businesses.
I look forward to supporting you and hearing your stories of healing.
Your sister in the healing journey.
“When women come together we can heal anything.”