I read an interesting statistic the other day that stuck in my head, did you know that 1 in 3 Americans is a stepparent, a stepchild, or part of a blended family in some way? Currently, 65% of remarriages also involve children from a prior marriage—which means a whole lot of blended families are here to stay! And while it’s becoming more common for families to be blended, it isn’t necessarily making it any easier for those of us trying to make it work in our own lives. Here are a few pieces of advice that can make your journey...
One of my biggest annoyances are “fake or phony” people. I consider myself to be an observant person. It didn’t take a rocket scientist to see that Ike’s biological mom had a split personality. See when my husband was around she was nice and engaged. Yet, when he wasn’t it was more of a “f@#% you” vibe. I mean…what the heck? What’s the point of pretending in front of my husband? I’m his wife and what you think of me really doesn’t matter. You weren’t part of the “interview” process during our dating.
Let’s face it. Entering into the world of the unknown brings a host of emotions and anxiety. You have found the person you want to spend forever with and it’s a package deal. This is not the time to “wing it.” It’s time to create a game plan and follow through. FAMILYmeetings were our secret weapon. Anyone can call a family meeting and we all attended.
I’ve never been the “sit down and shut up type.” So when I became a “step-mom” I didn’t fit the “traditional” mold. Society’s expectation of me giving 100% and unconditionally loving my “step-son.” While at the same time “staying in my lane” and not overstepping my boundaries. Well, that clashed with who I am.