My name is Tuniscia. Throughout my journey from a teenage single mother to married and raising a son I didn’t physically give birth to, I’ve learned a lot along the way. The most important lesson I have learned is co-parenting and blending families is like dancing it takes time, patience and practice to get it right. We may step on a few toes along the way. Yet, with a positive mind set and determination we will begin to get into rhythm and in harmony. This begins our journey into Blending Our Love.
The vision for Blending Our Love was birthed out of my desire to bring more positivity to co-parenting. Most times we glorify the negative aspects. Think about it…when you hear “step-child” or “step-mother/step-father” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Is it peace and harmony? We typically know more war stories than success. We tend to think of a troubled step-child and don’t forget about their dramatic parent that comes along with them. As well as the mean step-mother or step-father. Most times when we think of co-parenting we envision arguing over visitation and who gets the kids for holidays. It doesn’t have to be this way. Well unless you enjoy the drama.
Throughout this journey together I’m going to share some of my champion moments as well as the “what the heck was I thinking” moments. Although I was surrounded by loving family and friends I wish I had an outlet to share with others who didn’t know me so intimately. Read stories about how others handled difficult situations. While I was in the midst of my storm I would have loved to hear how others made it through and maybe tryout some of their suggestions. We all have one thing in common; we love our children and want them to succeed. That success starts with us and how we show up as parents. I’m not perfect and I have made plenty of mistakes along the way. The one thing I have done is committed to mastering my co-parenting dance routine. Will you join me?
About My Family
I’m married to a remarkable man. He is full of wisdom and often times he will share a riddle or a quote to convey a message with a deeper meaning. One of my favorite quotes from him is “It’s better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt.” Mark Twain. It took me a while to grasp this one because well I felt everyone needed to hear my opinion. Right? Then I realized “Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one.” I’m a work in progress.
My husband came into our relationship with a fun-loving son who has the sweetest smile. I brought two amazing and relentless children who in spite of being raised by a teenager (who did a lot through trial and error) turned out to be loving and conscious thinking adults. My husband and I decided from day one that we were going to lose the titles “step-mom”, “step-dad” and “step-children” and simply focused on loving our children unconditionally and equally. We placed our energy and focus on creating a loving household, a healthy family bond and blending our love.
Our children are in different stages of life. Our daughter is 22 years old and recently completed graduate school …whoop…whoop now she can get a job. She lives out of state although it’s hard to tell because she comes home frequently. Our home is more like a free hotel for her since most times she’s only here to sleep between events and hanging out with her friends.
Our middle son is also 22 years old (nope they aren’t twins…please don’t judge me remember I was a teenager:). He took a sabbatical from school to “find himself” and I’m sure glad he found who he was looking for and will be returning to school in August.
Our youngest son is 11 years old. He’s off to middle school the next school year. We have high energy and athletic children. Our older two children played sports from age 5 through college. Our baby boy decided he was going to sign up for almost every club the school offered: chess club, environmental club, theatre club, yearbook club, book club, band, football. I guess he figured I have “free-time” since I didn’t need to drive around his older siblings.
We’ve learned a lot along the way, accepting each other for who we are including all of our annoying habits. Although we aren’t perfect and don’t always get it right we are all committed to grow together as a family.